I've been feeling better recently due to a change in my medication. With the ensuing clear-headed-ness, I've been reflecting on things that have changed my life. Some changes were momentous, some subtle but with with long range effects; some changes were for the better, some not so much. Here they are in chronological order:
1. I met Carla, the person with whom I have my longest running friendship. We met when we were 14. I was instantly amazed by her: the first time she came to my house, c1971, she wore a giant plastic whistle around her neck, bib overall shorts, t-shirt, striped toe socks, and I think a funky hat that she had crocheted. My family though she was weird, but that is what attracted me to her. She comes from a family of artists and very intelligent people, so to find someone who was outside the mainstream was just what I needed at the tender age of 14.
2. My family moved from the Chicago area to the woods of northeast Georgia. I went from a HS with 4000 students, to a county HS with 102 kids in my graduating class.
3. Mothers Day, 1977: La Mere Vipere, Chicago's first punk club (formerly a gay "disco"), started on this day, and I was there with Carla. Punk Rock literally changed my life. As we walked in, "Love is the Drug" was playing--I NEVER thought I'd walk into a club or bar and hear it playing.
4. I moved to new York, sowed my wild oats, had a blast. I turned 21 in New York, which I was thrilled about. It made up for turning 16 in Georgia.
5. I lost my virginity, a few months before turning 22. He was a friend, and opened up my world to a
lot of things. Best way I could ever have lost it. Thanks A.
6. Met my VBFITWWW, Cactus, Fall 1982, in San Diego. One of the very best things to ever happen to me. For as long as I've known him, our disagreements have been remarkably few.
7. Met my husband through a personal ad. Turns out we had a shared history at the above-mentioned punk club in Chicago, although we never met until 1993.
8. I didn't get into Library school the first time applied; because of this, I went on to Plan B, which was:
9. I got pregnant (on purpose) at age 40 and had my son. I was quoted, post C-section birth of this 11 lb., 14 oz. behemoth, "I love everyone. And it's not just because of the drugs." :D
10. I discovered Second Life. I tapped into this verbal (text driven?) part of my brain that didn't get used enough, and suddenly I was quipping with the best of them. I became more self-confident, and took more pride in my appearance in RL because of the boldness that came out of my SL experiences
11. I turned 50--a very hard number for me. (35 was hard too, btw; I think it's about crossing demographic lines.)
12. Who the fuck knows...I'm still waiting for it